Dear Donna, My nephew and his wife wanted children so badly. They had ,everything to offer them. No matter what the did, she could not conceive..so many painful treatments, so much heartache, etc. They finally accepted the fact that they can't go on this way and said if it is not to be, then we will be ok. They have been married now for for 35 years and are each others best friend. Had a dog which they loved and she passed away recently...heart broken, but have found other ways to assist other animals, people in need, etc. as well as having goals they set to do with each other. I am not saying that it is easy, but is doable. One never knows what is in God's plan for us and why. Just trust that there is a reason. There is no way that you are a failure as there are many who cannot have children through no fault of there own. I hope you can find a way with your husband to accept whatever happens in the knowing there is something else in God's plan for you both in this world. Love to you J. <3