We all go thru hard times and what your son needs to do is have a long talk with God about everything, for God can take it. God can take your sons anger, sadness, and disappointments etc. etc. Your son needs to have it out with God and it will cleanse his soul. God loves him immensely and will gladly carry your son's garbage bag for him. So tell your son to picture a big green garbage bag that the Lord is holding open for him and to start filling it up with any junk he has and then hand it over to Jesus to take care of it for him. For Jesus bears our burdens and carries our sorrows for us.

Make no mistake about it God is with you even thou you dont feel close to Him right now. We are to walk by faith and not by sight or by our own fickle feelings. Believe me for Ive experienced them all too and want to rely on them too, but God shows us that He's bigger and better than our feelings and is constantly there whether you feel Him or not.
I pray Lord that you would show Jan what I am talking about and also get her the job or profession that you created for her to do. Let it be simply amazing and boggle her mind so that she knows that you are definitely in charge of her life and that You Lord Jesus love her thoroughly too! Help her easily pay all her bills too in Jesus name!

Remember that God is Love and doesnt just have Love but His very essence IS Love. You are totally accepted in the beloved, and it is not that we are to rely upon ourselves or what we do or dont do but we are to rely upon what Jesus has DONE for us. Read the Gospels to refresh your mind as to what He has done for you. Good or bad and even ugly Jesus loved you enough to die for you and now has seated you besides himself at the right hand of God. Jesus is the bright and morning star and He IS the only one that LOVES YOU perfectly and understands you perfectly too!