The best thing you can do for her is just be a good listener. Don't try to fix her :-)

May the only way you can get closer is to, fell the pain while remembering (like the old song goes), He's got the whole World in his hand.....

Hang in there! 😜
This too shall pass. Like the old saying goes it may pass like kidney stones but you'll make it through it.

Hope you can receive some of the blessings You so freely share with others.